Victor is an east coast boy, Tim is a west coast boy. We both have a mutual friend who thought we should get together. We did. And almost 25 years later, we're still going strong.
We started out on the west coast and moved east in 2001. We added Cybil Shepherd to the family in 2003, and Nonna – Victor's mom – in 2013. Cybil left us in January 2015 and Blanche joined us in February.
We're left-wing Liberal, opinionated, food-loving, fun-loving guys who love to travel and also love a relatively quiet time at home.
We're also officially married and officially retired.
We're unapologetic left-leaning Liberals and to paraphrase Pierre Trudeau's words in Canada "There is no such thing as a model or ideal American. What could be more absurd than the concept of an 'all-American' boy or girl? A society which emphasizes uniformity is one which creates intolerance and hate. A society which eulogizes the average citizen is one which breeds mediocrity."
We want equality and equal opportunity. It's pretty simple.
On May 2, 2010, A Moment in Time was born. Thousands of photographs were taken all at the same time and collected by the New York Times. The photo at left is our contribution. What's neat is that our photo has been one of the most-viewed world-wide.
Not bad for a couple of guys in the Philadelphia suburbs!
It’s amazing to us that 40+ years after we both came out to our families and friends, kids today still have to face the same issues of guilt, shame and loneliness we felt oh so many years ago. And people say it’s a “choice.” There are not a lot of people out there who would choose a lifetime of hate and denegration or to be called names like “sinner” and “abomination” and “sick” because they happen to love someone of their own sex.
One of the most difficult decisions a gay or lesbian person makes in their life is the decision to “come out” and be open about their sexuality. It’s not an easy decision to make, nor is it the same journey for all of us. Too many people are thrown out of the house, disowned by parents, shunned by family and former “friends.” We are both fortunate to come from large, loving families who embrace us for who we are – not who we love. It would be wonderful if every family was so supportive. Sadly, that is not the case for many.
“Coming out” is a lifetime ordeal
It’s not merely telling “mom and dad,” it’s living that decision in all of one’s everyday life. It’s constant and continual. Take it from a couple of guys who have been out for over 40 years – it’s worth every bit of whatever you have to go through. Because it’s not about “them” – it’s about “you.”
We travel as often as time and the pocketbook allow. We have been fortunate to travel all over the USofA and a few times to Europe. We have flown first class and have had suites in 5-star hotels. We have also flown coach and stayed at Super 8's and Motel 6. We've driven 'cross-country a couple of times and took the train from San Francisco back to Philadelphia in 2008 for our non-Honeymoon.
We have been to Washington, DC for protests and sightseeing. New Hampshire to wed and Cape Cod to honeymoon. And Disneyland, Disney World, Honolulu, Boston, Rochester, New Orleans, Omaha, Denver, Los Angeles, New York City, Yosemite, Niagara Falls… We've driven 'cross-country… And London, Paris, Rome, Venice, Florence, and Sicily with more trips planned for the future… We do like to travel…